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There are more permanent memorial options today than ever. From traditional granite monuments to modern glass memorials, we will work with you to build the perfect memorial for your pet.
What follows is a list of ideas for memorializing your pet, gleaned from the hundreds of grieving pet owners over the years. The ideas are as unique and as varied as the people who invented them. Think of ways you can adapt them and make them your own.
- Have a funeral or memorial service for your pet. Involve the whole family in the planning. Make it as simple or as elaborate as you like and invite whomever you choose, as long as it meets your need to express and share your sorrow, pay tribute to your pet and support one another as you say goodbye.
- If you’re a writer, write — it could be an article, an anecdote, a story, a poem, a song, a letter, an obituary or a eulogy for your pet. If you don’t want to write for someone else, keep a private journal and write about your feelings as you journey through your grief.
- Write a farewell letter to your pet as a way of saying an in-depth, thorough good-bye. Say what you are feeling, what you will miss most, what you will always remember with fondness. Say what the relationship gave you and tell how your life will be influenced by having known and loved that pet.
- Share anecdotes and favorite stories about your pet. Sometimes others need permission to talk about your dead pet. Let them know you would rather keep the memory of your beloved pet alive than pretend that nothing has changed.
- Decorate a candle and light it in memory of your cherished pet.
- Purchase a book — perhaps a children’s book — on coping with the loss of a pet, and donate it to your local library or school. Ask the librarian to place a label inside the front cover inscribed “In memory of (your pet’s name).”
- Save something that belonged to your pet (collar, tags, food and water dishes; bed or blanket; toys; a clipping of fur or baby teeth; a feather; a horseshoe, tail and mane hairs from your horse; the wool from your llama.)
- Carry a feather, a clipping of fur or a portion of your pet’s ashes with you in a tiny container or locket.
- Collect all the snapshots of your pet in a memory box, an album or a collage.
- Frame a favorite picture of your pet and display it in a special place. Give a copy as a gift to another grieving family member.
- Encourage grieving children to draw pictures or write stories inspired by their memories of their lost pet.
- Have a professional portrait of your pet painted or drawn by an artist from your favorite photograph.
- Have a favorite picture of your pet imprinted on a watch, mug, stein, T-shirt or sweatshirt.
- Buy a statue or a stuffed animal that reminds you of your pet, and put your pet’s collar around its neck.
- If you buried your pet in a cemetery or in a yard, take a picture of the grave site and keep that in a special place you can visit instead.
- Plant a tree, bush, shrub, garden or flowerbed as a permanent growing memorial to your pet. Mark the site with a memorial plaque, marker or statue.
- If you have your pet’s ashes, scatter or bury them in your pet’s favorite outdoor place, or put them in a potted plant that you can take with you should you move.
- Keep your pet’s ashes in a box or an urn that you can display in a special place of honor in your home or office.
- Inscribe a plaque or nameplate with your pet’s name, years of birth and death, and whatever else you choose to write in tribute. Put the plaque on a framed photograph or wooden memory box, hang it on the wall, attach it to a garden bench or other piece of furniture, or display it near your pet’s grave.
- Contact the Official Star Registry (800-275-9590) or the International Star Registry (800-282-3333) to name a star after your pet. You can choose your constellation, and a star map of that constellation will be sent to you with your pet’s star marked on it.
- Participate in the Monday Candle Ceremony, a healing ritual begun on the Internet that, with a simple lighting of candles at the same time all across the country (10 p.m. eastern; 9 p.m. central; 8 p.m. mountain; 7 p.m. Pacific) brings grieving pet owners together in love and in spirit.